love bites

I not only want to talk about things I think of in this column, but also give you all stories that might have something to do with what someone is going through.

I have a friend (IRL, not online) named Andy. He and I have been friends for 3 years and he thinks a lot of me because, unlike most women he encounters, I resisted even kissing him. Andy's life is very women oriented. He loves them. All shapes and sizes and looks. I've sat on the phone and listened to him go on and on about his sex-capades. And although personally I don't believe in sleeping with everything that walks your way, I don't judge him. What we have had discussions over is that Andy is NOT single. He's got a live-in girlfriend named Gina. Gina is a sweet girl, smart, funny, everything he wants, almost. Andy and Gina have been dating now for almost 9 years and been living together for almost 2. In her eyes, the relationship is fine, and he is not cheating on her. Obviously, I have never met her, and Andy keeps it that way because he is most likely worried about what I would have to say.

A couple of weeks ago, while working on a photo shoot, Andy met yet another woman, by the name of Monica. While she was older than his usual type (he likes them young!) and not as gorgeous as he prefers his women to be, she got under his skin and he called me, sounding scared to death. "I don't know what to do. She's got everything I've ever wanted. I think she could even replace Gina." I told him what he didn't want to hear: It is time for Andy and Gina to take a break. The very fact that he could even THINK that someone else could replace his significant other proved that she isn't as "significant" as he thought. I've asked him several times if he's in love with Gina, and he's replied "Yes" each time. But can you truly be in LOVE with someone and feel like someone else could replace that person? I think that you probably can't.

So, Love Fans, if you find that you are looking at every person who comes within a 5 mile radius as someone who could replace your current flame, it's time to look at how brightly that flame is burning. As a very good friend once told me: Don't be with the person you can live with, be with the person you can't live without.

Oh, and as for Andy and Gina? Turns out that Monica is exactly like Andy's first love, Amy. And in his words, "Amy = Snake therefore Monica = NO WAY!"

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